One thing my Mom said that has stuck with me is how grateful she feels each day to be alive - not like she is afraid to die, but that she is grateful she is experiencing life. I thought it was a beautiful thing to hear and it makes me feel like she is happy; this makes me happy.
The family photos turned out pretty good I think. We did one big family photo and then each family unit did their own sitting. There was one of my parents that I REALLY loved and am excited to get a copy of - They look so happy, especially Mom; she looks like she is just on the verge of laughing. I think I will cherish this photo for a very long time and am excited to get my copy of it.
Family and Relationships 2014:
1) What do I want?
I want to spend more quality time with my family this year. I see them often enough for family dinners and such, but I am looking for a few more one on one experiences with them. I also want the time I spend with my husband to hold more value and quality to it. Not always, I like watching TV shows with Trav, but I also want to start creating some lasting memories around the things we do together. I am still working out what those things will be, but I know I will figure it out.
2) What three things will be different this year?
- I will l look for new things to try with my family and husband.
- I will say "yes" more often.
- I have a fairly quick temper; I want to work on not reacting so quickly when I get irritated. I will take a deep breath before I respond - there are a lot of things that can go through your mind quickly on a good breath. I will breath in the things I love about my husband - I made a list to chant to myself each day, for example:
- Travis tells me every day that he loves me and I love him
- Travis calls me at least once each day to see how things are going
- Travis wants to spend time with me
- Travis is generous with his assistance around the house, preparing meals & cleaning
- Travis ALWAYS shovels and/or snow blows the drive-way without complaint
I am looking forward to improving some already great relationships in 2014...All's good, but it can always be better.
I Am Grateful to be experiencing life,
HB
Quote: "My philosophy is that not only are you responsible for your life, but doing the best at this moment puts you in the best place for the next moment." Oprah Winfrey
Yes.......adding VALUE to the time we spend with one another.....specifically our spouse. This I want as well. I find marriage so interesting, don't you? Some years are so awesome! At times we are really in sync with each other. At other times, during other months.......we are some how out of sync. We are more annoyed by one another, or one of us is trying to put forth effort and the other not. or we are feeling selfish, or prideful, or maybe we don't even know what the problem is. But it is usually the other person..... in our own mind at least. It is hard to look inward. It is hard to see our own imperfections and realize our part in the strain.... at least I struggle with this. I am right. How can you not see this???? And then some how, something, or someone gives, and the damn breaks and all is well and wonderful all over again. It is frustrating and confusing, and hopeful, and bewildering, and, and, and I guess that is why we have a LIFE TIME, if not eternity together to figure it out, and hopefully both come out happy, like mom and dad, and glad we put the effort in. It would be easy to just say screw it, and just move through life and not worry about it......but it sure would be a shame, and certainly not as fulfilling as it could and should have been. It is a shame to waste the time we have together. How to stop the cycle once it's turning...................................?and why and how did we get on it to begin with?
ReplyDeleteGood goals : ) Good luck; ) I will try your plan, write down the positive things I love about K, and put myself out there more with gratitude.
I think my marriage in sync time varies by the hour! You may be sorry to hear the first breath I took this evening went gasping in like normal...angst and frustration blowing back out. I realized my mistake and later Travis asked me why I was overcompensating...can't blame a girl for trying! :) Next time I will get it right.
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